If you are considering divorce mediation, you are far from alone. From saving on court costs and attorney fees to saving your children from a drawn-out battle, there are many reasons to consider this alternative to traditional litigation.
However, for mediation to be successful, it is important that you go into the process prepared to be flexible, open-minded and focused on your family’s future.
1. Keep an open mind about the final outcome
One of the biggest advantages of mediation is the ability to come up with creative solutions. Instead of fixating on what the law owes you, try to keep an open mind. You may find that you and your spouse discover unique ways to solve your disagreements.
2. Take the opportunity to listen
A good mediator knows that it is important to give each side an equal chance to explain his or her concerns and needs. A good mediator also knows that intense emotions can easily lead to miscommunication and misunderstanding.
You may find that mediation sessions are much more productive if you take the time to really listen to what your spouse has to say. You may still disagree, but you may also find that you better understand where they are coming from.
3. Find your biggest priorities
In addition to heartache, resentment and anxiety, you may feel overwhelmed by the number of decisions you and your spouse need to make in the coming weeks.
A compassionate mediator should listen to your emotional needs and use them to identify what you value most. By doing so, he or she can better help you to reach a workable resolution that truly supports your family’s interests.