Will a collaborative divorce be best for your kids?

On Behalf of | Mar 10, 2020 | Collaborative Law |

As collaborative divorce becomes more common, you may be wondering whether this measured and more cordial way to approach to divorce proceedings is right for your situation. Keeping the courts out of your divorce has myriad benefits. Most importantly, you and your soon-to-be former spouse retain control over the final arrangements.

However, collaborative divorce is a difficult and emotional process that requires willing participation and cooperation from all parties. It is not for spouses that cannot agree on anything. It requires healthy communication and that both parties are willing to compromise for the sake of the family, especially when children are involved.

It’s also important to note that, should you and your spouse find yourselves unable to agree, collaborative divorce can fail. In this scenario, you will not only have to proceed with litigation, but Pennsylvania law states that all previous negotiations in the collaborative process are void. You will even be required to hire a separate attorney for court proceedings.

How a collaborative divorce benefits your children

It isn’t easy for children to see their parents fighting, and such behavior can leave lasting damage. Think of the example that, by contrast, pursuing a collaborative divorce will set. By negotiating the outcome of your divorce with a qualified attorney but without a judge, you are demonstrating the importance of conflict resolution. Essentially, you are showing your children that you and your spouse can resolve your issues as mature adults. Just this simple act of cooperation will likely mean the world to a child caught in the middle of a divorce that they may not understand.

Additionally, collaborative divorce often involves consulting experts in fields such as finance, real estate, parenting and psychology. These consultants are a legitimate benefit that every divorcing couple can find value in. You will be getting the best advice for your specific situation, which obviously benefits all involved. The parenting and psychology experts, in particular, can help you make sure that your children are getting the best care during this difficult time.

Lastly, collaborative divorce is less expensive, leaving more resources for your children and allowing you to continue the lifestyle they are used to without interruption. The monetary impact of a divorce will be less dramatic, and children’s daily activities are less likely to be affected.

If you are contemplating divorce, consider all avenues available to you. Collaborative divorce is a way to show your children how much you value your family, as it is one of the best ways to protect your interests and ensure an outcome that both spouses can be satisfied with.