Law Offices of Lisa StandishFamily, Collaborative & Divorce Law2024-03-05T02:17:32Zhttps://www.lsfamilylaw.com/feed/atom/WordPress/wp-content/uploads/sites/1201488/2019/11/cropped-site-icon-ls-1-32x32.jpgOn Behalf of Law Offices of Lisa Standishhttps://www.lsfamilylaw.com/?p=493502024-02-28T02:18:35Z2024-03-05T02:17:32Z1. Unwillingness to work on the marriage
One of the clearest indicators that a marriage may be heading toward divorce is when a partner shows a lack of willingness to work on the relationship. Communication breakdowns, unresolved conflicts and a refusal to seek help or counseling can all contribute to this sense of stagnation.
2. Feeling of lost identity
In a healthy marriage, both partners should feel that the other supports and encourages them to pursue individual interests and goals. However, when one or both spouses begin to feel like the relationship stifles their identity, it can lead to feelings of resentment and dissatisfaction.
3. In-law intrusions
While in-laws can be a source of support and guidance, their involvement in a marriage can sometimes lead to tension and conflict. Whether through overstepping boundaries, meddling in personal matters or putting undue pressure on the couple, in-law intrusions can strain the relationship. Intrusions also indicate deeper issues such as a spouse being more loyal to their parents than to their partner.
4. Lack of intimacy
Intimacy is a major component of many healthy marriages. It encompasses the emotional, physical and sexual connection between partners. When intimacy begins to wane or disappear altogether, it can be a red flag indicating deeper issues within the relationship.
5. Frequent conflicts
Conflict is a natural part of any relationship. However, when disagreements escalate into frequent, heated arguments with no resolution in sight, it can erode the foundation of the marriage. Chronic conflict can create a toxic environment full of resentment, bitterness and a breakdown of trust.
Addressing these issues can help prevent marital breakdown or pave the way for a healthier split.]]>On Behalf of Law Offices of Lisa Standishhttps://www.lsfamilylaw.com/?p=493492024-01-09T01:55:31Z2024-01-09T01:55:31ZNeed for perfection
Type C individuals often have a meticulous nature. They place a strong emphasis on precision and order in their lives. While these qualities can be assets in various aspects, they may also lead to challenges in marital relationships. The desire for perfection and control may create tension between partners.
Problems expressing emotions
Communication is a cornerstone of any successful marriage, but Type C personalities may face difficulties expressing their emotions openly. These individuals tend to act in a reserved way. They may find it challenging to share their feelings or vulnerabilities with their spouses. This communication barrier can lead to misunderstandings and feelings of emotional distance.
Too much focus on goals
The relentless pursuit of goals and high standards that often characterize Type C personalities may lead to a neglect of the emotional needs of their partners. Striving for success and accomplishment is admirable, but it can lead to a spouse feeling neglected and unfulfilled.
Adversion to risks
The tendency of Type C personalities to be overly cautious and risk-averse may hinder the growth and adaptability necessary for a thriving marriage. The reluctance to step out of a comfort zone can limit the shared experiences and adventures that contribute to a vibrant and resilient relationship.
Type C personalities may face unique challenges in their marriages. If they are aware of these issues, they might be able to overcome them. However, for many, having this personality type leads to divorce.]]>On Behalf of Law Offices of Lisa Standishhttps://www.lsfamilylaw.com/?p=493472023-11-07T16:30:24Z2023-11-07T16:30:24ZVeterans Affairs services
The U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs offers a comprehensive range of services for military veterans. These services include counseling, therapy and support groups specifically tailored to address PTSD. The VA provides care both in-person and through telehealth options, making it accessible to veterans across the country.
TRICARE
TRICARE, the healthcare program for military members and their families, covers mental health services, including those related to PTSD. Eligible beneficiaries can access therapy, counseling and psychiatric care.
Veterans crisis line
For immediate assistance, the Veterans Crisis Line is available 24/7. It offers confidential support for veterans and their families dealing with crises, including PTSD. It is available by phone, text or online chat.
Military and family support centers
These centers offer various resources, including workshops and classes on coping with stress, managing relationships and improving mental health. They also provide referrals to specialized care when needed.
Nonprofit organizations
There are numerous nonprofit organizations that support military members and their families dealing with PTSD. Organizations like Wounded Warrior Project, Give an Hour and Operation Homefront provide a wide range of services, from counseling to financial assistance.
Living with PTSD as a military member or spouse can be incredibly challenging, but there are numerous resources available to provide support and help manage the condition. It is essential to reach out and take advantage of these resources to find the support and assistance needed to navigate the complexities of living with this mental condition.]]>On Behalf of Law Offices of Lisa Standishhttps://www.lsfamilylaw.com/?p=493452023-09-01T20:32:32Z2023-09-01T20:32:32ZRegulation of military pensions
The Uniformed Services Former Spouses' Protection Act plays a central role in regulating the division of military pensions in divorce cases. Under the USFSPA, state courts have the authority to treat military pensions as shared marital property. This means that, in the absence of other arrangements, the court can divide the pension between the ex-spouses. The court determines the entitled portion of the pension for the non-military spouse, often through calculations based on the length of the marriage overlapping with the military service.
The issuance of a QDRO
Generally, a court will issue the division of a military pension through a Qualified Domestic Relations Order, which outlines the portions for each spouse. Once approved, this order must go to the military finance center to ensure the former spouse receives the designated portion upon the retirement of the military member.
Negotiating the division of a military pension requires careful consideration and financial foresight. The process demands a clear understanding of the legal framework and potential consequences. Couples should note that division may not be equal as it depends on various factors under the USFSPA that the court must consider.]]>On Behalf of Law Offices of Lisa Standishhttps://www.lsfamilylaw.com/?p=493442023-07-07T19:55:31Z2023-07-07T19:55:31ZPennsylvania’s new parenting law.
Removal of institutional barriers
In the past, many courts sided with mothers during custody disputes. However, that trend has changed in recent history. Not only are courts more apt to order joint custody, but they have also started awarding fathers primary custody. Pennsylvania seeks to end institutional barriers that prevented men from developing, raising and supporting their children. Instead, the courts should encourage and prepare men for the financial, emotional and legal challenges they could face as fathers. These barriers include a lack of housing programs, support services, educational help and mental and behavioral health services available to fathers.
Reasons for the changes
Pennsylvania recognizes that when both parents become involved in their children’s lives, the children actually thrive and have better educational, behavioral and emotional outcomes. Children’s well-being benefits from paternal involvement. In fact, the lack of fathers’ involvement can lead to underachievement, incarceration, substance use and abuse, economic instability and emotional challenges.
Fathers’ responsibilities
Pennsylvania holds fathers responsible for the social, intellectual, emotional, physical, financial and spiritual well-being of their children. The courts seek the best interest of the child, so if fathers can better support and care for their children, judges will award them primary custody. They can no longer presume that mothers provide the best care.
For the best outcome of your custody case, stay involved in your children’s lives and act with respect and patience toward your children and former spouse.]]>On Behalf of Law Offices of Lisa Standishhttps://www.lsfamilylaw.com/?p=492132023-05-06T18:02:34Z2023-05-06T18:02:34Zequitable distribution state, you should understand how the courts may divide your retirement asset.
Separate versus marital property
Separate property includes all the assets you acquired before you got married. Therefore, every dollar you contributed and all the interest or dividends you earned on your retirement before your marriage are separate assets. They remain yours.
Marital property includes anything you purchase during your marriage. Every dollar you contribute to your retirement and all the interest and dividends you earn after you get married are marital property. The judge distributes these assets.
Equitable distribution
Equitable distribution does not require equal distribution. Instead, the judge will divide your assets based on your circumstances. For example, if your spouse also contributed to a retirement account during your marriage, the judge will subtract this amount from the distribution process.
A judge has discretion in dividing these assets. If your spouse has significant assets, the judge may not touch your retirement. The court may also allow you to keep your account if you give up other marital assets.
Protections
With some plans, you and your former spouse can receive distributions at retirement, so the judge may not force a division immediately, requiring that you cash out the account. You may also qualify for a QDRO, which reduces your penalties for any money you have to withdraw due to divorce.
For the best results, negotiate with your spouse to keep your retirement intact.]]>On Behalf of Law Offices of Lisa Standishhttps://www.lsfamilylaw.com/?p=492122023-03-09T14:55:42Z2023-03-09T14:55:42Zcommon ground in your custody case, it is in everyone’s best interest.
There are a few things to consider as you navigate the custody settlement process.
Why should you strive for common ground in your custody case?
Finding a way to work with the other parent and sharing common ground is important. It reflects well on both of you in court because it shows the judge that you are capable of putting your child’s needs and interests first. It also minimizes your stress by reducing conflict and saves you time and money by resolving the case without litigation. Finding common ground also ensures that both parents maintain an equal relationship with the child through fair and equitable timesharing.
How do you find common ground in your custody case?
There are a few ways to find common ground while you negotiate your child custody case. Start by considering the fact that you both play an important role in your child’s life. Remember that you both have busy schedules and deserve equal time with your child and that you both want what is best for your child’s well-being and future.
Working together makes it easier for you both to get what you feel is right out of the custody agreement. It makes the process less stressful because it encourages mutual respect and peaceful negotiation.]]>On Behalf of Law Offices of Lisa Standishhttps://www.lsfamilylaw.com/?p=492112023-01-04T23:36:38Z2023-01-04T23:36:38Z31,691 marriages ended in divorce or annulment in 2021. Not that the time has come, you likely have questions regarding the divorce process.
1. How long will my divorce take?
In general, it takes around four months to finalize a divorce in Pennsylvania. That timeline varies since no two divorces look the same. If a couple continues to fight and does not compromise, the process could take much longer. If you and your future ex get the process started quickly and work together, it may take less time.
2. Will I have to go to court?
Most divorce cases do not require that you appear in court. By working with a mediator or attorney, you can finalize the key elements of your divorce, from deciding what to do with a house to making custody arrangements. A court appearance may become necessary if one party makes a legal claim or if unable to agree upon the distribution of assets.
3. How do assets get divided?
If the courts need to divide marital property, it happens on an equitable basis. That does not equate to evenly splitting property and other assets. A judge will look over a significant amount of information to make a judgment. Some of these factors may include age, marriage length, income, education contributions, earning capability, the standard of living and tax ramifications.]]>On Behalf of Law Offices of Lisa Standishhttps://www.lsfamilylaw.com/?p=492092022-11-12T16:37:37Z2022-11-12T16:37:37ZSpend more time
Custodial parents generally have sole physical custody if their ex is an inmate or the court deems them unfit to house their child. Since they live with you, you can spend more time with your child without anyone's permission.
Make legal decisions
If you also have sole legal custody, you can make legal decisions regarding your child without consulting your ex. For example, you may only need permission to do something if you are relocating, which will interfere with your ex's visitation rights.
Handle care tasks
Aside from this, you will be able to handle regular care tasks without permission, including:
Picking a school
Helping with homework
Providing transportation
Ensuring hygiene
Coordinating visitation
It means that you are responsible for the care of your child, and your ex is not required to help beyond child support payments.
If you and your ex can negotiate, you might be able to become a custodial parent in a friendly way or without litigation. The key is to write it down and submit your agreement to the judge for approval. Judges will likely agree to the custody terms you and your ex agree on, although they need to consider your child's best interest as well.]]>On Behalf of Law Offices of Lisa Standishhttps://www.lsfamilylaw.com/?p=491212022-10-03T08:34:42Z2022-08-31T21:16:08Z1. Best interests of the child
If your child's physical and emotional needs are not met or they are unsafe in their current custody situation, a judge may reconsider your current custody arrangements. For example, if your ex works excessive hours, leaving your child alone during much of their custody time, this is generally not in your child's best interests. Additionally, if your child is reasonably old enough to share their opinion on who they want to spend more time with, a judge may consider their preference.
2. Parental drug or alcohol abuse
A judge may deem living with a parent with a drug or alcohol problem unsafe. If your former partner abuses drugs or alcohol, you may have a case for changing the custody rules for your child.
3. Relocation
When either parent moves, this may affect the feasibility of your current custody orders, potentially warranting rearrangement.
4. An uncooperative parent
If your ex does not cooperate with the custody arrangements currently in place, you can request a revision to accommodate the situation's reality.
As a parent, you want what is best for your child. Understanding what may warrant a custody order revision in Pennsylvania can help you make informed decisions regarding your child's well-being.]]>